Ten ways to increase your self-confidence

Many people lack self-confidence. This is unfortunate because it affects your life in a negative way. It is also part of Dutch popular culture to express criticism rather than compliment people. Still, it’s nice when you manage to increase your self-confidence and you can do that in these ten ways.

1. Only listen to yourself and your own feelings, don’t let others influence you

Of course you can listen to criticism from people who have your best interests at heart and if they substantiate this criticism with good arguments, you may be able to do something with it. However, your own feelings should always be the guideline for your actions. Do not pretend to be anything other than who you are, as this will undermine your self-confidence. The closer you stay to yourself, the more you trust yourself and the more positive you will think about yourself.

2. Give yourself permission to fail

Failure is a learning experience. A person who does nothing will not fail, but will also learn nothing and remain stagnant in his or her life. So failure is also a positive thing. After all, you tried it and learned from it. Don’t wonder what you did wrong, but what you can do to improve. Other people also make mistakes and if all goes well you forgive others for their mistakes. Also forgive yourself when you have made a mistake. So don’t criticize yourself when things don’t go as planned.

3. Collect positive quotes and write down your own successes

Examples of positive quotes are:
You are good just the way you are. Better imperfect and real than made perfect. Believe in yourself. Nobody is perfect. Try to stop negative thoughts about yourself as quickly as possible and avoid worrying.

4. Take on challenges, but don’t push yourself

If you want to enjoy life to the fullest, you need meaningful activities. Challenges encourage you to be meaningful. Dreams are good, provided they move you to action. Dreaming about your life makes you feel unhappy. After all, you do nothing to realize your dreams and you start to feel increasingly unhappy with reality. However, you should try not to force yourself. Take small steps forward to achieve your ultimate goal to minimize the chance of failure.

5. Make sure you are well prepared

It’s very easy to start something ill-prepared and when you fail, tell yourself that you can’t do it. It’s more honest to tell yourself that you haven’t even tried. When you prepare poorly, you start to doubt your own capabilities and failure lurks. This is not due to your ability, but to your commitment. So make sure you are well prepared. Doubt only feeds a lack of self-confidence.

6. Let go of the past and go for the future

Don’t get stuck in the mistakes you made in the past, look ahead. The same goes for a bad childhood or a bad relationship that undermined your self-confidence. These have been events in your life. You choose to continue working on this and get stuck in it. Anyone who looks back too much will never move forward. You cannot redo the past, but your future is in your own hands.

7. Set goals for yourself

When you set goals for yourself, you take control of your life. You don’t blow with all the winds and you direct your own life. When you do this, you will naturally gain more self-esteem. Nothing is more damaging to your self-esteem than having other people determine what your life looks like. So choose an active attitude to life instead of a passive one. Moreover, achieving your goals and engaging in activities provides a positive boost.

8. Don’t worry about what others think of you

People generally try to force you into a straightjacket. Just act normal, you’re acting crazy enough. When you step outside the box to achieve your goals, you will receive criticism from those around you. Follow your own path in this. On their deathbed, people more often regret what they did not do than what they did do. Make sure you pursue your own goals and dreams and don’t abandon them because you are afraid of the reaction of others.

9. Remove activities that only cost you energy from your life as much as possible

Of course, you can’t eliminate all energy-draining activities from your life, but you certainly can. There are people who make you happy and leave you full of energy, these are real friends. People with whom you have a mutual click or bond. In addition, there are also people who always leave you feeling tired. People who seem to suck the energy out of you, often these are people who always make you feel like you are doing things wrong or that you are inferior to them. It is best to avoid these people as much as possible. If you have a job that you dread going to in the morning and leave exhausted in the evening, it is time for a different job.

10. Know yourself

When you know yourself, in addition to your qualities, you also know your pitfalls. It makes it easier to accept yourself and someone who has accepted himself with all his good and bad qualities can also accept criticism much better. No, you are not the nicest, most beautiful and most wonderful person on this earth, but you can be who you are. You are good enough!