The male orgasm

Most men assume that orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing. Nothing could be further from the truth: orgasm and ejculation are different events even though they seem to occur simultaneously. It is important to know that these events can also occur separately. The arousal phase, orgasm and ejaculation and the refractory period are further discussed in this article. Research has indeed shown that stimulation of the septum (this is a specific part of the brain that is part of the limbic system) produces a feeling of orgasm, although this is not accompanied by an erection or ejaculation. This shows that ejaculation and orgasm are two different events.

Arousal phase

When a man is confronted with sexual stimuli (visual, tactile, etc.) this causes activation of the parts of the brain responsible for a sexual response. However, this first stage does not necessarily have to be accompanied by an erection .

Several phenomena occur in this first stage. The brain is flooded with endorphins , giving the man a general feeling of well-being and driving him to do everything he can to maintain and even increase this feeling. This phase is usually also accompanied by the production of pre-cum ( pre-ejaculate ).

Once sexual arousal has begun, various physical and psychological reactions occur. Via a reflex arc, a number of valves close the blood vessels that drain blood from the penis. At the same time, blood pressure and heart rate increase so that more blood enters the penis than flows out. This blood accumulates in the erectile tissues of the penis, causing an erection . As the arousal and erection continue, the psychological urge to ejaculate also increases. The man experiences a feeling of wanting to be sexually stimulated more and more: the sexual tension increases and ultimately leads to orgasm.


orgasm approaches, the production of precum stops and the opening at the tip of the penis takes the shape of a slit. The testes harden and are pulled up into the scrotum . Breathing becomes heavier and involuntary muscle contractions (convulsions) may occur throughout the body.

The psychological and physical discharge is accompanied by a series of muscle contractions in the lower abdomen. Usually these are about 8 large contractions with an interval of about a second, sometimes followed by a number of smaller contractions that can last up to 45 seconds in total.

Ejaculation force : In general, the more a man ejaculates during a day, the smaller the force with which the ejaculation takes place.

Sperm : 60% is formed by the seminal vesicles in the testicles, 38% by the prostate and the rest by a number of glands.

Frequency of ejaculating : According to most studies, frequency decreases with age, ranging from ejaculating daily in post-puberty to 2 to 3 times a week in forty-year-olds. However, large individual differences are possible in this regard.

Refractory period

After orgasm, the valves in the blood vessels are opened, the blood flows out of the erectile tissues and the penis becomes flaccid. From this point on, a refractory period occurs during which a man cannot have an orgasm, even if he can maintain an erection. This period can vary from a few minutes to several hours (usually depending on age). See: Male Sexuality: Myths and Facts

After the orgasm, a general feeling of relaxation and drowsiness follows in the man, caused by the substance oxytocin that is released in the bloodstream during orgasm.